What do you do when everything gets out of hand? Particularly irritating is when it’s not your fault. An injustice is done to you, and you can do little about it. In short: your goals, your objectives, your entire purpose has been derailed.
Seth Godin in his daily blog this week commented on this situation.
Unfair things happen. You might be diagnosed with a disease, demoted for a mistake you didn’t make, convicted of a crime you didn’t commit. The ref might make a bad call, an agreement might be abrogated, a partner might let…
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Do You Kick and Scream?
I’m not totally against kicking and screaming.
In one sense it’s cathartic – it helps us feel better when an injustice has been visited upon us. Occasionally, kicking and screaming might change the reality.
But it’s frequently useless as well. It achieves nothing, and at the end of it all we can frequently feel more deflated, having kicked and screamed our way into anger, bitterness and depression.
So when it’s useless – do you still do it?
Do We Just Ignore Problems then?
And I don’t think that’s what Seth is suggesting.
We can’t ignore issues that “happen to us”.
But we can rise above them.
We can accept the reality of the situation (if that’s what it is) and take that reality, own it, and turn it into something better.
What’s this got to do with Lawyers?
It comes up all the time. You get bad delegation with inappropriate deadlines.
You get yelled at for no reason by your boss.
Your client is an idiot who gives you bad (or false) instructions, and then not surprisingly you lose the Court case as a consequence.
This events occur every day, and if you spend your energy and your life kicking and screaming, rather than singing and dancing, you’re going to turn into a sour, bitter individual.
It’s not easy.
But it’s better.